A hormonal nightmare during adolescence can be exacerbated by problems related to school well-being, which can be facilitated by many factors. As a parent, you need to be aware of them, as they can negatively affect your teen’s school experience. Moreover, it can be like a normal stress due to exams, as well as more serious problems, for example, intimidation – so that, knowing them, you can react sensitively, and your child will remain happy and contented. In this article, we focus on the most common problems that harm adolescence in school, and consider how you can provide the right support.
Your teenager will spend the best part of all five days at school, and this will be a major part of his everyday life. If problems are in school, your child will feel like they are affecting his entire world. The following are the main difficulties to be aware of.
Choosing the right school
If you are focusing on your teen’s school well-being, then you should know that it depends on your choice of school. It is important that it is suitable for your child and that they too are involved in deciding which school they will go to. There is a great variety even among leading schools. For example, a big difference is whether it will be a school only for boys or girls or it will be co-educational. Some schools pay more attention than others to academic achievement, and therefore create a more stressful environment in which some children succeed, while others “stumble”. There are institutions known for their powerful information and technological capabilities (the first among them is the Eton School), and this environment will be comfortable for a child or not depends on his personality. You know your son better than anyone, and to find an institution that will suit his personality means finding the key to his happiness throughout the school years.
The decline in educational success in a child, who usually reached the highest levels, can be a disturbing sign that something is wrong. The cause of academic failure can be a number of problems. It is important to get to the bottom of what exactly caused this difficulty, but at the same time not letting your child feel that you are nagging him or are disappointed in him. This can affect their self-esteem, and, if not handled with delicacy, it can cause a long-lasting and destructive effect on their attitude towards their studies. Tactful conversation with your child will help determine the root cause of the problem. Perhaps he is threatened (hereinafter – in detail about this), or they lack support in the curriculum, or for some reason they have lost motivation. There are many ways to stop the negative impact of academic failure until it strengthens and becomes uncontrollable. Read our article “What to do if you are behind”, where you can find more tips for yourself.
The stress in the learning process, the amount of work and stress due to exams
Exam stress can get even the most diligent and confident children, and this is something to which particular attention should be paid, especially at the time of the annual onset of the examination session. They are under great pressure: they need to pass a high-level exam for a secondary education certificate so that these results look good in a statement submitted to the university, and then they still need to pass the advanced level exam as best as possible in order to gain access to those universities that they want to do. In addition to this, they will often take up part-time work as well as take part in extracurricular activities, without mentioning their efforts to maintain their social life. You have to do a lot of things at the same time, and if they become irritable and unrestrained during the period of examinations, this may mean that stress also approaches them. Unfortunately, you can not do so much to help them, except to be supportively present in the background. Let them know that you are there in case they might need your help with something, and also make sure they have the peace and peace they need to be able to learn. Make sure they know about your love for them, which exists regardless of the ratings they receive. You may not realize this, but they may work to the point of exhaustion themselves, because they are afraid of your reaction to when they do not reach the highest level.
It is important for children to build good relationships with teachers. It should be noted that thanks to such relationships, the daily school experience brings more happiness, not to mention that teachers will write recommendations to the university. If your child does not like one or more teachers, this may affect their well-being and academic performance ¬– they will be less motivated to succeed in any subject when they don’t like the teacher. On the other hand, if your child feels that some particular teacher has disliked him, this can cause concern when he has to go to school, and also have a bad influence on his self-esteem. The best thing you can do is take the opportunity to talk to your child’s teachers whenever this problem arises, and parental evenings are a good example. This should give you the opportunity to catch any kind of problems, regardless of whether the teacher will speak to you frankly or not, and after that – direct efforts to, literally, nip them in the bud.
Friendship and love relationships
The subject of the greatest concern for teenagers is friendship and, perhaps, even the romantic relationship that they build from school. At this age, your child will survive the effects of many hormones, and this can make him especially sensitive to social circumstances. They can feel a sense of embarrassment or embarrassment deeper than adults, and, moreover, in a group of friends, it is not uncommon for a tense situation to arise that causes significant disorders. This usually passes quickly, but when these problems become long-term, they can greatly distract the child’s attention from school and, therefore, have an adverse effect on his school success. It is difficult (if not impossible) to intervene in such situations, and as long as it does not reach the threats – what we will consider a little further – they will have to deal with these difficulties among themselves. But you can at least be present as a support and be the person with whom you can discuss something if he wants to talk to you about a situation. You can help by offering his attention to the point of view of someone older and wiser. He may not listen to you, but at least you will feel that you have done everything you can to help him. An absolutely opposite problem can also take place: your offspring gets along so well with its friends (or with its other half), that it spends too much time with them, neglecting its studies. If this is the case of your child, then it would be useful to give him a more global picture that now the school may seem to them unimportant compared to friendship, but they work for the university, and the university will provide them with a path to a high paying career and a comfortable life. It’s hard to do anything when your child, while at school, spends periods of free time hanging around with his friends instead of learning, but you can try to limit the time they spend talking outside the school. You could influence them, so that they would consider communication in society as a reward, like something that would have to be looked forward to in completing their homework. You could also offer them other incentives to work harder. For example, there is incentive money, the effectiveness (or even moral permissibility) of which is the subject of debate, but pocket money, perhaps, could be a good way of motivation and more focus your teenager’s attention to study.
Your child may experience this problem throughout the entire period of his schooling, no matter what age he is. She has many different forms, but they can all deeply affect the happiness of your offspring, both within and outside the school. Bullying can be verbal or physical, but it can also be emotional — for example, by excluding your teen from social events, spreading evil rumors, etc. It may be difficult to determine if your child is threatened, as they may not pull you into it because of the fear that the situation will get worse. Watch for changes in behavior, such as, for example, if your sociable child has become quiet and reticent before. If you find that the reason for this is bullying, talk about it with your child, go with him to the teacher and discuss it with him. Agree on a course of action to tackle this problem, and insistently demand regular meetings to discuss whether the situation has improved or not.
Your home life has a strong effect on the child’s well-being at school, as stress at home affects how well he can cope with the stress experienced at school. Creating a peaceful home environment is just as important because it allows your teenager to concentrate on learning. If, for example, they have younger brothers or sisters, you can do your bit and help the child, keeping them in silence so that he can practice. The following are also other difficulties in home life that can affect your teenager.
There is a whole abundance of incredible facts, according to which it is advised that frequent travels during the child’s education have an extremely destructive effect on them, and also cause stress. School is a tense enough school even without your teenager having to settle in many different schools. For this reason, if possible, try to minimize the number of times your child has to change schools while learning. If this is unavoidable due to your work responsibilities, it may be worth sending them to a boarding school, as this may become a permanent part of their life, and they will not have to make new friends all the time.
Bullying through information technology
Thanks to social networks, your teenager is not protected from threats, even when he is at home. “Cyberbullying” is a threat that occurs through the Internet, and they cause particular damage because they hit children when they are in their own home and where they should be safe. Among the many possible manifestations, it includes insulting or threatening behavior on social networks, the spread of evil gossips or the hanging of compromising photos of your child. “Cyberbullying” can gradually erode your adolescent’s self-esteem, as well as influence his academic life, so watch his behavior while working on the computer (for example, the alarming sign that he quickly shuts down the window as you approach) . Also, follow his general manners to notice any changes that may indicate something bad. Enter the rules for how long and when they are allowed to be online, and at the same time talk to them about how safe it is in this mode. Make sure they know how to block or complain about people who insult or threaten them online. This can help you become familiar with the social networks that they are part of, so that you will know what to do in case of any problems.
If you decide to train your child at home, this can cause a completely different set of problems. One of the first to fight with is the lack of social interaction. Your teenager may feel isolated when he studies everything at home and he has no motivation to compete with his peers about learning. Therefore, it is important to encourage them to engage in some kind of hobby outside the home so that they see other teenagers and make friends. You may also find that you need to do something to motivate him. This can be solved by introducing strict, as in school, schedule and daily routine, requiring them to get up and start studying at a certain time, as well as arranging the subjects in the order that he would have been in school. Caring for the well-being of a teenager is rarely a simple matter, and each parent will have his own way of how he will do it. In this article, we tried to encourage a culture of frank and honest discussion in your home. You will have to spend a lot of time to recognize any of the difficulties that we talked about in this article, and to tackle these emerging problems before they grow and begin to affect the educational progress and well-being of your child.